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Couples Counseling

Relationships enhance the quality of all our lives. All relationships will experience times when they are unable to “see eye to eye”. Relationship therapy focuses on gaining skills to understand and meet the needs of ourselves and others through means that are mutually beneficial.


At Choices, we offer therapy to couples and “polycules” seeking to improve their relationship. Polycules come in many diverse forms such as polyamory, poly-fidelity, monogamish, non-monogamy, open relationships, and other alternative lifestyles. Couples therapy is often misconstrued as a last-chance effort to save a relationship, but at Choices Psychotherapy, we’ve helped couples at all stages of their relationships to improve their bond and get back on track. Choices Psychotherapy believes in guiding couples through their trials and tribulations, and come out with a stronger relationship for it in the end. Perhaps you feel you’ve been growing apart as of late, or certain behaviors in you or your partner(s) aren’t agreeing with you as well as they used to. Regardless of the problem, if you and your partner(s) are seeking to improve the quality of your relationship, Choices can help with couples therapy.

A man and woman lay back-to-back in bed, both looking away from each other with neutral expressions, hinting at possible tension or disconnection—a moment where Choices Psychotherapy's mental health services could offer meaningful support.

Our areas of expertise include both behavioral and communication interventions. Perhaps you’ve had a major setback that you’re both seeking to recover from, or maybe you just feel that your relationship is slipping away from where you want it to be, but aren’t sure why. Each relationship is unique, and requires attention and improvement in different areas. We know that learning to resolve differences without damage to our relationships is key to maintaining the support and enrichment we gain in our relationships with family and friends. The following include just a few of the areas of your relationship that relationship therapy can help improve at Choices.


Conflict Management

Learn to manage conflict in a healthy way. This is one of the biggest areas of improvement for almost any relationship. How we “fight,” says a lot about who we are as individuals. When emotions are running high, we sometimes forget about how our words affect who we’re speaking to, or how to communicate our true feelings to our partner. What we’re saying can come off as intentionally hurtful without our even realizing it. At Choices, we seek to improve your conflict management style as a couple, so that you can truly use disagreements to grow together, instead of growing apart.


Communication Exchanges

Our everyday communication is one of the foundations of a grounded relationship. There are so many different levels and ways to communicate with each other. You may believe that you know your partner(s) inside and out, but if you only ever communicate on a superficial level, you may not know him or her at all. We get down to the core of who a person is by knowing their innermost feelings. Conversations like these rarely happen overnight. In fact, some individuals never get to this level of communication because it makes them feel uncomfortable, or even worse, a sign of weakness. On the contrary, discussing emotions with your significant other will bring you closer together, and can improve all of your relationships.


Behavioral Skills

Often times, behavior can get confused with communication. We’ve all heard that it’s not just what we say, but how we say it. These are the skills we work on at Choices. Our behavior can also be our habits that we and our partners can develop over time, but neglect discussing them with each other before it’s too late. For example, say your partner(s) has a tendency to look at their phone while you’re talking. He or she might think this is harmless, “As long as I’m listening to you, what difference does it make? I’m a good multitasker!” However, lots of us feel that behaviors like this are simply our partners saying “I don’t care about what you have to say right now.” In short, it’s hurtful. At Choices, we seek to uncover these behaviors that you didn’t even realize were harming your relationship, and develop a solution to resolve them.

Short term and Long term Solutions

Major setbacks to relationships cover all sorts of issues. Both emotional and physical infidelity are common reasons to begin therapy, but there are many more. A big fight that shakes your relationship to its core and has you questioning your partner(s) as a person is just as good a cause to seek outside help. Perhaps you’d just like to come in for one session to start the conversation, or maybe you need a long-term plan. We often find ourselves questioning our relationships and not voicing our concerns. What can begin as a small problem can turn into a big one that’s just too difficult to come back from. Don’t wait until it’s too late for you and your partner, contact Choices Psychotherapy today to get started.

Our Approach

Depending on your personality as a couple, and the nature of your relationship, Choices will utilize a series of techniques to resolve problems. A few examples of the techniques covered in relationship therapy include reflective or active listening, effective communication strategies, and behavioral exchanges. Improvement in one or more of these areas can make a world of difference in your relationship. A strong relationship supports each of you as individuals and all other aspects of your life. Communication and conflict management tactics covered by Choices Psychotherapy can be applied to many of your relationships. Improving your relationship through couples therapy can mean a better life, and a better you.


Choices Psychotherapy offers several types of services that have lead couples and individuals alike to living a better life. Many couples often turn to our family therapy services to enrich and improve their bond as a whole family. If you’re seeking help as a couple with kids, you may not realize how your troubles are affecting the whole family. It’s important to seek help if you think this could be the case.


Couples and individuals who seek to improve their sex lives have also benefitted from sex therapy. If you have any questions about the services we offer, contact Choices Psychotherapy today. We’re located in Minnetonka, MN and cater to residents in and nearby the Twin Cities.